Author Topic: Tough guys - ignore or fight?  (Read 881 times)

Offline MegaMedic on: April 17, 2014, 10:16:36 PM

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Alright guys, so I'm gonna write here something and I want to hear your answer. I'm tired to hear an opinion from Romanians, so maybe you guys have others, so here we go:

Let say that you have in your class, "tough guys" which have money and they're rich, have power (with money, of course) and they are consider himself best from the best, or B0$$

And there are you, a simple guy, with not so much money and shit, with not power...just an idiot (considered by others)

Tough guys are fucking with you, and trying to consider them the bosses in front of you, and you're really tired of their bullshits, everyday.


"Tough guys" are making fun of you and stupid jokes, which it makes you distugsted.
If you try to reply with other stupid joke or insult, they're gonna beat you, and trying to show you they are the boss.

What would you do in case of this? Ignore or fight?

Are you gonna ignore them and just lead your way or you gonna reply on their insults and if they gonna fight, you gonna fight too.

REMEMBER that you are poor, and they are rich, so you don't have any chances to win, if you gonna have trouble with Police about this, because they gonna give money and they gonna win.



Please give answers with arguments guys. I really like your opinions and full writing on topics, so write here :)


Offline Machine Medic #1 on: April 17, 2014, 11:03:25 PM

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Tough guys are fucking with you, and trying to consider them the bosses in front of you, and you're really tired of their bullshits, everyday.

Meh, this used to describe every other day of my life at school until a few years ago.

I honestly stopped caring about them, and they stopped getting the reactions they wanted.  After a few months, they got bored and looked elsewhere for their emotional (egotistical) reinforcement.  Of course they still threw the occasional insult or jeer at me once in a while, but now it's pretty rare that I have problems with them.

Tough shits in person behave remarkably like trolls on the internet.  If you let them have any reaction other than "I don't really care what you think, so I'm going to continue to focus on things more important than you", they will start to chase after you like dogs... sick, psychotic, and diseased ones.  (A recent thread on this forum comes to mind.)

Just realize that no matter what anyone says to you, people's opinions do not matter unless:

- You believe they matter
   [or]
- You have probable cause to believe they may take physical action against you.

I don't think fighting in a situation like this would particularly help, unless you are doing so in self-defense.


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This is one of the reasons I miss our clan server.  When you are in control of a social environment such as in a game server, you can just throw their ugly asses out the door with no effort once you're certain they are troublemakers.

Such is why I've been given the entirely humorous and superficial title of 'Banhammer'.


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Offline MegaMedic #2 on: April 17, 2014, 11:29:02 PM

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As I expected to see from you. A big text, not a sentence, as Romanians answers to you.

Anyway, I like your argument, I can agree with this. Ignorance is bless, and you don't need to fight with idiots, as long as you consider that you are more good than them.

I personally don't give so much fuck on the class. I'm really a serious person on society and I just can't wait to finish this fucking high school and then "movin' on up".

Btw, for your argument, I'm gonna give you an applaud at your profile.

Offline Machine Medic #3 on: April 18, 2014, 12:26:57 AM

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I personally don't give so much fuck on the class. I'm really a serious person on society and I just can't wait to finish this fucking high school and then "movin' on up".

Welcome to the club, lol.


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Btw, for your argument, I'm gonna give you an applaud at your profile.

Happy to share my opinion.   ;D

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Offline Loki #4 on: April 18, 2014, 07:55:03 AM

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I always don't count them in my world. They're just like a dust for me.

Offline grmg.pl #5 on: April 18, 2014, 11:11:44 AM

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0. Don't fight, you'll lose sooner or later (sooner) and it sets a bad example of solving problems later (you can get angry and punch someone in the face, but this won't help when dealing with bank manager). Defend yourself if attacked (grab anything hard within your reach and just smash it against the leader of the bullies, preferably his head) but do not go into the fight just because it's expected ("he called you a pussy, are you going to do something about it?") of you.

1. Give no reaction at all. No replies, witty comebacks and so on. The less you react to them the more dumb they look in front of others. Also were there is no victim, there can be no attacker.

2. For the next 30 days, EVERYDAY, meditate. Eyes opened slightly wider than normal, and look at ONE point only, ALL time. Start with 5 minutes first day and add 1 minute extra until you get to 20-30 minutes. While doing this imagine you're breathing air in your belly/guts. Breathe slow but deep. Focus your mind on the one point and breathing deep. Ignore other thoughts. I can routinely out-stare cops, bouncers, not to mention "non-muscle power" people. Just remember to...

3. ...smile while you're looking at them. Warm smile, not funny smile.

4. If you're afraid, whatever the cause, breathe deeply (multiple times) in and repeat in your mind "I accept my fear". Do it until the fear starts going away. Control your body with breathing and your mind with forcing it from "fear/reaction" to "what was that sentence I'm supposed to repeat?".


That is the quickest fix you can apply. Calm, confident look in eyes that can be held with anyone (meditation), smile (disarms negative energy), control of the fear (breathing and taking mental focus away from fear), give no reaction (not playing their game).

Long term solution - start weightlifting. Generally the bigger you are the less people mess with you.

No amount of money is gonna make you more confident in their presence, the best you can get for money is buying respect through expensive stuff, but it will make THEM less confident not YOU more confident.



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When you are in control of a social environment
Will never happen, don't even propagate this attitude, it's extremely damaging, borderline on "psychological" HIV.

Also - you're a hypocrite and need to taste your own medicine - silly attempt at insult here gets you a quote:
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People are generally disrespectful, two-faced, hypocritical
That is "you from a thread that comes to mind" talking about "yourself in this thread". Disrespectful, two faced hypocrite. No wonder others treat you like they do.

Offline MegaMedic #6 on: April 18, 2014, 12:42:37 PM

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Alright dog. Here is also other good arguments, which can be useful. Grml, I also gave you an applaud at profile.

Offline MegaMedic #7 on: April 25, 2014, 07:24:32 PM

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Alright, so back with an update, I can say that is a waste of time trying to talk with your classmates or other idiots which they laughed at you in the past.

I'm not gonna take any revenge on this shit, but when they will have a problem, or they gonna ask for something, I will definely say NO.

After this day, I won't say that I will never help people in this world. If all my classmates are such an idiots, that doesn't mean that all the world is the same. I'm not gonna be bad outside, and keep be a good man.